I was in a fantastic long-distance relationship for two and a half years! We both studied Hotel Management at a private university which required us to go on a working industry placement every 6 months. Unfortunately our semesters didn’t quite line up, so as soon as one of us would return back to study, the other would have to leave.
We live in New Zealand, which made it not too hard compared to other couples because we could drive to see each other once every 3-4 weeks. We suffered through money and time constraints so we did the best we could. Some couples say they would never do long distance because it would be too hard. I always said my whole life, if I had a partner that lived somewhere else I wouldn’t be with him. It’s funny how love takes over and you do everything in your power to make it work. It was actually an incredible experience that taught me a lot!
I would love to help other couples survive their LDR’s and one of the best ways to keep things interesting, is through surprises! They can be long distance such as sending packages in the post, or surprises for when you are actually able to enjoy each others company in person. I hope you find ideas to try in this list, and if you have any other suggestions I could add, I’d love to know!
Surprises You Can Plan For Your Partner During Long Distance
1. Open When Letters
I made these for my partner when we first started long distance and they were a hit! You can fill these with love notes, photos, a valued item that represents a memory together, travelling tickets for their next visit (plane ticket or gas vouchers), or inspirational quotes to pick them up on a down day. I highly recommend for couples to do something like this during long distance and send it in the post, or leave it somewhere hidden at your partners house then tell them about it later.
Open when you are feeling:
- Open NOW
- Your Losing Hope
- I’m Losing Hope
- You Need Workout Motivation
- You Need To Laugh
- You’ve Had A Bad Day
- You Miss Me
- You NEED Me
- You’re Having A Girls/Guys Night
- You Need To Smile
- You’re Thinking Of Our Future Together
- You’re Feeling Naughty…
2. Care Package
A great way of showing your partner how much they mean to you and that you’re thinking of them. Keep an eye out for items you can include next time you go shopping. You can also include handmade items, or items of your own such as clothing with your scent on it. Include things relative to what your partner is doing. If they are a student, possibly include things like study snacks, stationary, coffee, relaxation items and vitamins. If your partner has been busy at work you could include more relaxation items such as bath materials, candles, tickets for leisure experiences, vouchers for nearby fast food stores or restaurants, and items that remind them of you.
3. Plan A Surprise Trip
There’s one catch, please ensure they will actually be home when you are there! It would be awkward saving all this money, then showing up at their house just to find they have gone on a business trip for example.
4. Vouchers For Food/Hobbies/Travel
Get your hands on vouchers for food stores that are actually near your partners home or work. These can be purchased online, or secretly buy a few during your next visit, to post at a later date. Everyone loves food and it can be an excellent treat if your partner doesn’t feel like cooking some nights.
By giving them vouchers for their favourite hobbies it shows that you care about their interests and you want them to make time for the things they enjoy. Whether it be golf, horse riding, photography lessons, cooking classes, rifle range shooting or hiking. By taking the time out to do something for themselves, they will become a much happier person. Especially if they are a workaholic!
Give them vouchers or money that they can use, to go towards their next visit. If money constraints are holding you back from seeing each other as much as you would like, this would be the perfect gift ♥
5. Love Letters
If your partners Love Language is ‘Words Of Affirmation’, then this is perfect. Some people prefer to be told through speech how much they mean to their partner, and what aspects of them you love the most. Make it a confidence booster for them, to show how much you really care and what you are looking forward to in the future.
There are 5 Love Languages which are words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time and physical touch. To find out your similarities or differences with your partner – take the quiz!
6. Give Them An Experience
I always say if you don’t know what to give me as a gift, then give me an experience! You can take your partner rock climbing, diving, sky-diving, a spa package, tickets to their favourite sports game, go-karting, a tropical island holiday, or tickets to their favourite concert, band or festival. If you are lost for ideas, ask them if they have a bucket list out of curiosity and help them to tick things off!
7. Book A Hotel For Your Next Visit
My partner and I loved hotels for an ultimate relaxation experience and privacy. It’s not often we could get away from staying with family members or having flatmates. When we book a hotel stay we are sure to put on a movie, eat cheese and crackers or chocolate, and pour ourselves glasses of wine in the lush hotel beds. The is one of the best ways to build intimacy and passion.
8. Gift Them An Item To Remind Them Of You
This can be clothing with your scent on it, jewellery, photos, a handwritten letter or note, or a blanket you always use.
9. Plan The Ultimate Weekend For Them
For Him – Take him to his favourite sports game, cook him his favourite meal, give him a foot massage, participate in his favourite hobby, treat him to some craft beer, stay in bed all day, and complete a DIY project together.
For Her – Run her a bath with rose petals and candles, visit a winery, give her a back massage, do a chore she usually does, then take her to dinner at a fancy restaurant. Bonus points if it overlooks the water.
10. Get A Makeover Or Dress Up For No Reason
In between visits you could treat yourself to getting your hair colored, getting your makeup and nails done, buying a few new items of clothing for your wardrobe, look after your body and health, get a wax instead of shaving, try a new hairstyle such as curling or an up-do, and start taking notice of your posture and body language. If you don’t want to spend money on a makeover, you can simply dress to surprise him for no reason, using things you already own.
11. Go Clothes Shopping
Treat each other to a new outfit. You could even try something new like each choosing an item of clothing for your partner, for a dinner date later that night. It would be interesting to see what your partner prefers you to wear!
12. Something To Contribute To Their Goals
What is your partner currently working towards? Or what would they like to learn? You could gift them books, online courses, or pay for lessons. If they want to lose weight and increase their fitness levels, you could gift them PT lessons, nutritional meal plans, and digital products. If their goal is to get a promotion at work or create their own business, you could gift them personal development books, things that teach them how to deal with stress and utilize time management, a new suit or business attire, or organise a meeting for them with someone they look up to or aspire to be.
Whats the best surprise you have ever planned for your partner? Write in the comments!
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