How happy someone is in a relationship can deeply affect their quality of life. If you are constantly getting yelled at, put down, feeling un-appreciated, putting in all the effort and getting nothing in return, that person may become depressed, self-conscious and lack confidence in themselves. However if you and your partner equally put in effort into the relationship to keep each other happy, feeling loved, excited, like you are on the same team, constantly lifting each other up with encouragement and words of affirmation, then you will live a more positive and healthier life.
Whether you are looking for a partner, dating someone and want to make sure they are right for you, or in a relationship – this post will tell you what traits to look for in a partner to make sure you have chosen the right one, so you don’t set yourself up for failure or heartbreak.
1. Kind to animals and other people
How a person treats animals and other human beings shows a lot about how much love they have in their heart. I would never trust a person that does not treat an animal with the utmost respect.
2. Looks after them-self
It is nice when you partner takes the time to put effort in their hair, makeup and clothing. It can be hard when someone neglects them-self when they become ‘too comfortable’. So offer a compliment next time they dress up. It also works as a nice surprise to dress up for your partner for no reason and have a candle lit dinner in the comfort of your own home.
3. Has vision and goals for the future
This is so important if you want a fulfilling life. You don’t want someone who doesn’t have drive. Whatever it is that is important to them, which can be a family, money, or a rewarding career; your partner should always be setting goals to work towards what they want!
4. They appreciate you
Your partner should be thankful when you cook a nice meal, or an act of kindness such as cleaning the lounge or doing the dishes. They should appreciate even the small gestures. It lets you know that they care about it and respect you.
5. They look after their health
By maintaining a healthy exercise routine and a diet of nutritional food, it puts both of you at less risk of health problems later in life, it will keep their body in shape, giving them more energy and confidence, and it will increase physical attraction. It is a sign that they respect them-self. I love this quote: Your body is a reflection of your lifestyle.
6. They bring out the best in you.
Your partner should always be lifting you up with their words of encouragement, appreciation and motivation. You should feel good about yourself when you are around them and be able to trust them completely.
7. Your goals align
When talking about the future – marriage, kids, careers, money, travelling, living destination and expectations of each other, it should all link up. If one person want kids and one doesn’t, that will end in heartbreak for one of you. It is important to discuss this early on, when the relationship is established and you have gotten to know each other for a few months. You don’t want to ask them too early on and scare them off! Or ask too late and realise you want completely different things.
8. They don’t embarrass you or put you down
It is okay to tell your partner things they aren’t doing that you would like them to work on, in a kind tone of voice. But never yell and scream at your partner abusing them. Learn how to resolve fights and arguments quickly and efficiently to have a positive outcome. After me and my partner have an argument and manage to resolve the issue, we come out the other end on the same page, each time our relationship gets stronger, and we understand each other better than before.
Speak positively about them in front of their friends and family to show how much you love and appreciate them.
You want someone with common sense and a willingness to constantly learn, as well as make good decisions in life.
Trust is SO IMPORTANT in a relationship. You should always be open and honest with your partner about everything, and they should allow you to do that by making you feel comfortable about telling them. They shouldnt make you feel scared or nervous to tell them, because that’s when problems start. Honesty is something you should both automatically expect from each other.
If you were to look back on your life, would it be worth watching?
Ambition means a strong desire to do or achieve something. This is such a good quality for someone to have because they will always be working on themselves, and working towards a better life. You want someone who Dreams Big and doesn’t settle for less than they deserve.
12. They respect your time with friends
In a relationship, you should both have your own friends, as well as combined friends. For example, your girlfriend shouldnt get angry because you want to have a guys night, as long as you give her a reasons trust you. It’s important to have time apart, instead of being consumed by one person in your life.
13. They make an effort with your friends
Your partner should try to get on with your friends, and you should try to get on with theirs.
It’s so lovely when your partner comes home from work in a great mood because they love their job, or works on a hobby in the weekend that they thoroughly enjoy, or plays a sport that makes them happy. It puts everyone in a much better mood and reduces stress.
15. They encourage you to dream big
No one wants a life full of regrets and what-ifs. Your partner should make you believe you CAN achieve what ever you want out of life. Know your worth. However, a goal without a plan remains a wish. So figure out how you can make it happen!
16. They do kind gestures for you ‘just because’
This can be things like buying a small gift they know you would like, washing your car, cooking your favourite meal or organising a BBQ and inviting your friends over. Your partner should always be wanting to make you happy, and surprises are a lot of fun! For more ideas check out – The 5 Love Languages which will tell you specifically what your partner will like as an individual, and Surprises You Can Plan For Your Partner During Long Distance.
17. A sense of humor
Laughter is the greatest medicine in life, and can be the backbone of a relationship. It will help you both overcome conflict, be less stressed, improve intimacy and you will love the life you share together.
18. You can feel completely comfortable around the other person
You still need to look after yourself physically, but what I am talking about is your personality. When I am with my boyfriend, I feel more ‘myself’ than when I am alone! We can laugh together about silly things, talk about absolutely anything without being judged by the other person, try new things together and never have to worry about getting put down or feeling embarrassed.
19. Your strengths and weaknesses align
I have found, that everything I am terrible at, my boyfriend is really good at, as well as everything I am good at, he needs to work on. Which is perfect! Because together we make the perfect team and can constantly learn and improve ourselves.
Dont settle for someone who likes to play games, or doesn’t want to commit to only one person, or hurts your feelings on purpose, or doesn’t put you first, or thinks that their life dreams are more important than yours.
Keep the man or woman who wants to work together with you to create the perfect life. Always lifts you up and empowers you.